Dating and Diabetes
it's been a while. I know. I'm so sorry. But I am back. Ready to write about so many things!
I've decided to come back with a subject that I think a lot of you may relate to: DATING AND DIABETES! I know that the English word ''dating'' can mean a lot of things. It can mean going to a couple of dates with someone, having a casual relationship, having a serious relationship, etc.
Since I've been in a long-distance relationship for more than 3 years now, I will mainly talk about that, but all the things I'm about to write about can surely apply to all kinds of ''dating''.
Let them know about your diabetes
I don't know about you, but I had this period in my life where I was shy to tell ANYONE that I had diabetes. I would secretly go to the washroom to check my blood sugar and inject some insulin in my tummy.
I met my boyfriend on vacation. I remember being with him one morning and I wasn't sure if I was low or not. I was thinking: ''should I tell him that I have diabetes and that I wasn't feeling too well ? But I don't know him well enough yet to tell him that!!'' So I didn't say anything and went to check my BG and drink some juice. But then, one night, we were eating late and I felt like I needed to tell him that I need to take a shot in order to eat. I don't know why the majority of T1s ( maybe I'm wrong) feel shy to tell people that they need medecine to eat or else well, I don't want to imagine what happens! My point is we don't need to feel shy, even if the way we give ourselves medication is with a humongous needle (okay I'm exaggerating). Medecine is medecine and we need it!
Back to my story. So I was about to eat and I told him: I'm diabetic, I need to go to the washroom to take my shot. Well I didn't tell him dry and direct like that, but you understand what I mean.
What was his reaction? The one I hoped for. He was just like: okay no problem I'll wait for you! aaah, I was stressing out for nothing ( story of my life). People don't get scared by your diabetes. If their reaction suggests that they are, and I am telling you that from a personal point of view, then maybe she/he is not the one for you.
Share your numbers
I know it may seem weird, but sharing your numbers can bring a couple closer together. Only in a relationship where there's at least one diabetic you would be able to say that!!
Your SO should know what are your symptoms when your numbers are too high, or too low. They should be aware that a hyper can make you become moody ( trust me my bf knows that) and a low can make you feel anxious ( trust me on this one too). Having someone you can trust can make you feel so much safer when your numbers are not in range.
I don't usually like writing about my personal relationship but I feel like if there's one place and time that I can write about it a little it's here and now!
As mentioned above, I have been in a long-distance relationship for 3 and a half years now. Despite the distance, my boyfriend knows everything about T1 diabetes. He knows that every time we eat sushi together I end up going higher than 15 mmol/L. He knows that I need to pee a lot when I am high. He knows that I start feeling shaky when I'm low. ( he once stopped at a random convenient store to get me juice because I was so sick of being low and eating my candies so I needed a little change of taste). He knows that I become so stressed out when travelling and approaching security points at airports ( we once had a little argument cause I was all over the place with my bags and supplies, but don't worry it passed). He knows that if I am low and that my Dexcom is beeping like a crazy person, to double check it with my meter. ('' check it with your finger babe'')
Since we are in a long-distance relationship, our diabetes relationship is sponsored by my friend the Dexcom G5. He is able to see my numbers on his phone so these are the most popular text messages that I get. ( and of course the ones from my mom too):
''Babe you're low''. Oh damn I didn't even realize.
''Babe your blood sugar!!! take insulin now now!!''
''Time for juice babe''
Thanks for having my back!
Having someone who understands my diabetes is an important factor for me. I know that I shouldn't feel like diabetes IS my life, but it is a big part of my life. Having someone that understands AND accepts it can make your diabetic journey much easier. Support is important.